1. Keep expectations realistic. 
Pointless arguing in a relationship: Many people do it but most of us don’t understand it and are perplexed by it. Everyone knows a couple who constantly bickers or has conflict – maybe that’s even you and your partner. Maybe you argue so frequently that it’s become the norm. Is this really what to expect in a relationship that’s supposed to bring you joy and companionship?. 10 characteristics of strong relationship.
What if you could solve arguing in your relationship almost immediately? It’s possible. Expectations in a relationship form the basis of whether or not the partnership works for both people. By shifting your mindset, your relationship can become happier, more peaceful, and more productive.
2. Talk with each other.
Communication is defined as a lot of things but my favorite definition includes, “the successful conveying or sharing of ideas and feelings”. Communication is about expressing yourself in a healthy way, listening to your partner when they are doing the same, and really hearing and absorbing what the other person has to say.
3. Be flexible.
When you let go of your need to be right, you open yourself up to a generative and exciting environment where both you and your partner can learn and grow together. This also creates a safe space in the relationship where both you and your partner can trust the other to engage in compassionate listening and effective communication techniques.
4. Take care of yourself, too.
When you are in a relationship, it can be easy to forget about your own needs. We may get too caught up in the excitement of it, and forget to look after ourselves and our mental and physical well-being may suffer as a result.
5. Be dependable.
If you make plans with someone, follow through. If you take on a responsibility, complete it. Healthy relationships are trustworthy.
6. Fight fair:
Fighting is a part of any relationship. It’s going to happen, but it doesn’t have to lessen it. Having know-how around fighting fair can not only save a relationship but also make sure you both get what you need and bring you closer. Few things will fuel intimacy, connection, and closeness like being seen, being heard, and coming through a storm side by side.
7. Be affirming. Actions speak louder than words—unless, of course, your partner’s love language is “words of affirmation.” In this case, words are everything. Whether they are written or spoken, a person whose primary love language is words of affirmation will place a lot of importance on what you have to say to them.
8. Keep your life balanced. For a healthy and long-lasting relationship, one needs to maintain balance in life and we all know what we do when we are blinded by love. Initially, in a relationship, it is all rainbows and butterflies and we commit and literally dedicate our days and life to our partner.
9. It’s a process. It might look like everyone on campus is confident and connected, but most people share concerns about fitting in and getting along with others. It takes time to meet people and get to know them. Healthy relationships can be learned and practiced, and keep getting better.
10. Be yourself: It’s much easier and more fun to be authentic than to pretend to be something or someone else. Healthy relationships are made of real people.
